Afternoon gorgeous XX

Hope you’re all enjoying the weather we’re having here (assuming you’re here, near me), if not or you’re somewhere else; I hope life and the weather is good for you.

So this is the second post detailing my shift in thinking; which is occuring as I move further and further through my transition. As I do so, I’m seeing things differently, experiencing things differently and overall taking on a completely different attitude.

Which; ultimately, that’s what this is all about for me – a massive life change from Male, to Female. But the last post, and how it came about, has me thinking along different lines; it’s pointing to differences in how I see myself. With the big question being; “What am I?”.

Well, it’s obvious that the current school of thought sees Trans people as being on a spectrum. We’re all at a different point in the transition from one gender, to another, aren’t we? Or are we? Well, you see, that’s where the issue has been for me. And that’s also where the issue appears to lie for most Non-LGBT+ people, too.

I spent most of my life trying to fit in with a concept that I, ultimately, don’t agree with. And that is the concept of two genders and two sexes, Male and Female; Man and Woman. That was ingrained into me as a child because of where and how I was brought up. I was aware of Gays and Lesbians; but still you have the Male and Female elements of both. However, I now ask the question; is that strictly true?

Well, no matter what people think and no matter what people say, a large majority of the population will ultimately agree with the above. That’s changing as society comes to terms with the fact that Gender and Sex are two different things, but ultimately; human beings are Male and Female.

I’m not discounting Intersex people here, I’m just going a lot deeper than that. As I see intersex as a variation, or combination of the sex Chromosomes; X and Y – I am also aware that the sry gene from the Y chromosome can hop over to the X. Again, that is a variation on what could be considered the norm. So, to better explain myself; and give you an understanding of how I see it, think of people with Polychromatic Eyes…

Moving on; at birth, our parents first see us & our sex organs and; quite rightly, assume that we are to become the gender our sex organs define us as. If you’re a parent, think of that first response as your child is born; “It’s a boy!”, or “It’s a girl!” – “It’s Transgender and will have Vaginoplasty!” doesn’t quite sound the same, does it?…

And I have a son, and was present at his birth…

Ok. So I have your attention, in a very big way. What point am I trying to make?

I’ll tell you…

Trans people see themselves as being on a spectrum, there’s different points on the spectrum (cross dressing, HRT, Gender Surgery, etc.) and coming in from the outside; it’s very much like Autism. Which is also based on a spectrum – I know, I’m on it and have the diagnosis to prove it. So, it’s difficult for an outsider coming in to view Trans people correctly; because of the great variation within the spectrum. But society has come to accept (to a point) the greater LGBT+ community.

So, my thinking is; why don’t we just look at the greater LGBT+ community as being on the same spectrum; from Male to Female. Then include everybody on that spectrum; Lesbian, Gays, Crossdressers, Transsexuals, etc., and call us all Trans? No more separation, no more LGBT, just Transgender. Which, in a way, is what we are?

You then have a complete sexual and gender spectrum from which a person can move along and stop at what point they see fit, at any point in their life. It also makes it much easier for an outsider to understand what is happening within the spectrum community, they don’t need to understand labels anymore; just that someone is Transgender. Much like someone who is Autistic is Neurodiverse? I’ll tell this, that kind of thinking sure as hell makes it a lot easier for me to understand.

Moving forward th that; we, as humans, can then be born Male, Female or Intersex and then become a part of that spectrum and choose our gender as we progress and grow through life.

Much like what is happening with me.

Much Love,

Vikki xx

By Vikki Kinsella

My name is Vikki, and I’m a Transgender Female living and working in the UK.

I’ve started this blog purely as a way of writing down my thoughts and feelings, as I now start my journey through transition from living life as Male to becoming Female, and beyond. You see, I spent 45 years of my life living as, what is now known as, a cisgender Male - With almost no idea that I could even consider being Female, let alone consider corrective surgery. But I must admit I did have a tendency to THINK like a woman sometimes... But doesn't every Man think like a woman on occasion? Don't try and hide it boys, you know you do, lol...

7 replies on “Neurodiversity…”

Thats what I do. They are them, by name. I try not to define gender as that is my pet peeve!! If the ‘subject’ comes up, I’ll ask them if they have a preference in ‘title’ and use that if there is one. Otherwise I just go by their name.

Also, I guess I’m old school … or not lol, not sure … but someones sexual orientation, as far as I’m concerned, is noone elses business except theirs. I don’t have to announce that I am Susan and am heterosexual! Why are we so obsessed with knowing whether someone prefers dick or vagina or neither … just saying lol xo


Nah you’re not old school, far from it.

You see; old school is the predominantly male school of thought where men are obsessed with whether knowing if someone prefers cock – Because if they do; as a man, that’s wrong and should be treated as such but as a woman; that’s right and I have one here, would you like me to impregnate you – no regard for the woman’s thoughts at all.

It’s all down to the fact that heterosexual males don’t like another male touching their cock, it’s their cock; not someone else’s and it’s personal. With the root cause being the emotional insensitivity conditioned into you by 2000+ years of male dominated, male controlled, male oriented religious beliefs and constructed society.

Once THAT changes, these decisions will become a lot easier xx

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