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Hi Guys & Gals… xx

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Morning Gorgeous 🙂 xx

How you all doing peeps? Surviving the typical english summer (or whatever the weather might be around the world)? Good, I hope so.

So this post is a little bit of a test; but also another chance for me to ask some questions – I like to communicate in both directions. What I’m doing, is moving the blog off my personal page on Facebook and onto a public one. This will give people in certain parts of my life a choice as to whether they read the posts or not. Turns out I offended some people recently and as much as I believe in what I’m writing, sometimes you have to take a step back and go in a slightly different direction. Well this is it.

If you’re on Twitter or Google Plus; etc. there is no change. On Facebook, this should be the first post on a new page; separate from my personal profile. A learning curve, all good.

Right. So, there’s a few things in my head that need to come out. And I want to write them down here, this is MY blog. A few people have tried suppress posts in the past, not having it. I may apologise publically if something offends you but this is my version of events, written under my rules. The only person I won’t say no to on here, is myself. Out in the real world; I need to learn to do that again anyway. So this is my safe space.

OK, so here’s the disclaimer…

IF ANYTHING I WRITE ON HERE FROM NOW ON OFFENDS ANYBODY I KNOW, OR USED TO KNOW. CONTACT ME PRIVATELY AND WE WILL SORT IT OUT. DO NOT POST PUBLICALLY WITHOUT CONTACTING ME FIRST.

A darling member of my family recently made such a mistake and embarrassed not only me, but herself as well. AND caused issues in the family. All they had to do was call me; something I’d been waiting for; for months, anyway and we could have sorted it out. If you were hurt by what I said Kid, so was I. Pointless.

So anyway, fresh start for the Facebook side of things, onward and upward for the rest. Here’s to a brighter future; whatever that may entail.

Much Love,

 

Vikki xx

A Quick Note…

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Morning Gorgeous xx

How are you all my lovelies, hope you’re all OK. Good. 🙂

As the title says, this is a quick note. A very quick note. Did you even think it was possible for me to write a quick note??? Shhhh, don’t tell anyone; but it is…

I know that these posts go out across the internet, and they go out in various ways; Facebook, Twitter, Google+, etc. I have a little bit of an audience, and I thank you all for reading. I hope you like what I write and I do read and mod all the comments that come into the blog from you guys & gals. I will, however, only ever permanently release the verifiable ones (I check the spam folder often too). Hence why there’s not very many comments kicking around.

But that’s not the point, the point is; I’m going to lose some of my audience and I want people to know this – I’m not a self-obsessed freak; as some of the spam comments have mentioned and I want to advise you that posts are going to disappear from certain sites. (Facebook in particular). The reason for this is beyond my control, but this change has come at a good time. Whether I wanted to do it or not, it’s for the best.

So, if you read this via my Personal Profile on Facebook; this is the probably the last post you will see. If you don’t want to see this anymore (and I fully understand if you don’t), DON’T DO ANYTHING – I don’t want you to.

BUT. If you are reading this that way, and you do want to carry on reading; look for the link to the public page that I will put up next. All new posts from now on will appear on there.

Right, well; I’ve got some work to do sorting this out…

Much Love,

 

Vikki xx

Apologies

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Good morning All… xx

It has transpired that my last post has been seen as very insensitive to certain situations which are happening in my life and those of people around me. Because of that; actions have been taken and conversations have been held that should never have happened. This has been detrimental and caused issues within my family, something which; and please believe me when I say, I had wished to avoid. To all my frien

I owe members of my family an apology and the best place for that to happen would be in the same forum as the original post, here. And I do so now; I apologise, unreservedly.

Without wanting to cause further trauma, I would to take a short opportunity to explain myself – and it will be brief. There are issues going on in my life which are long-term, I am working through these issues in order to create a brighter future. I am receiving help, professional help, to deal with them. There is never going to be a right time for certain events to happen; but there will also never be a wrong time – Issues are raised when they are raised and its about dealing with them as soon as possible. The reason for that is I have to deal with it before the next one comes out, and there is a queue.

Writing a post like the last one is a very emotional experience and care can be lost when such an issue is committed to paper. I will try, in future, to take more care of what I post; before I post.

To those members of my family who were upset by the last post. I am sorry, please believe me 😦

Much Love,

 

Vikki xx

360 Degree Feedback…

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Morning Gorgeous xx

How are you all this week? You good? Hope so… To be honest, I hope you all like reading ths blog, as much as I do writing it. It’s very therapeutic for me; as these are my raw thoughts, literally what’s going on inside my head, but it can be very difficult to write sometimes. It’s really difficult to organise my thoughts and get every thing down on paper.

For example, there’s been a few interesting developments since my last post, but do I write them all down in one post? Or write a separate post about each one? In the background I have eight unfinished posts and two full pages that I need to write, but I’m struggling with motivation – I’m procrastinating a lot. There’s a lot going on, there’s a lot to sort out – and I don’t even know where to start.

My usual advice to anyone in this situation woul be to start at the beginning, organise everything into a timeline and work from there. Sounds easy right? Problem is I can’t do it myself, something stops me every single time and I end up making excuses to myself; and everyone else. At the moment I’m holding my head in my hands and screaming ‘Why! Why me?!’. The reason, why do I have to be like this and why can’t I chamge? What stops me?

I know I can do this, I’ve done tougher before – I’ve survived an awful lot to get to where I am. I know I have to make this change and I am doing, It’ll be a year since I was diagnosed in September. Yet I’m still struggling.

I’m thinking to myself at the moment; ‘What am I struggling with?’. Is it my identity? Honestly, I don’t think so. Because when I manage to dress myself (it takes a while, lol) and go out the door, I’m happier than I’ve ever been. Is it my appearance to the world? Partly, yes. But it’s not my problem; it’s how other people see me, and the difficulties of aligning that with how I feel. Or is it life? Again, partly. My organisational skills leave a lot to be desired, I procrastinate and there’s an absolute mountain of tasks to do and problems I need to face. On top of all of that, my mental health really doesn’t help and my attitude sucks towards it sometimes – I do wonder if I’m Bipolar or have ADHD alongside everything else.

But am I just avoiding the issue? My next few posts, which will explain the events of the past week, may go some way to explaining that – one event in particular will serve as a clue; I’m sure. I invite anyone who reads this to comment – and I mean anyone. 360 Feedback they call it, and I need some right now.

So, whether you’re reading this via Facebook, Twitter, The website direct or I gave you the link (there’s a problem with the domain wich I need to fix), leave a comment. Don’t be shy, it’s very important to me right now. And that includes negative feedback, I need everyone around me to be as honest as they can be. I need a kick up the backside, and I’m asking for one.

So to coin my usual phrase – JFDI, Just F*****g Do It. – Don’t be shy, leave a comment; it’s VERY important.

Much Love,

 

Vikki xx