Fear – Redefining viewpoints in a negative way

Morning gorgeous xx

I hope you’re all stating safe and well in these difficult times. For those whose lives have been affected, I pray for you and ask that you stay as safe and warm as you can and bear with the world while it adjusts to these massive changes wrought up on us – Things will improve, they’ll just take time.

And time is a commodity we have a lot of, we just don’t realise it. If we’re brave enough to face the changes, whatever they may be, and handle them careful thought, we can get through them. There is no need to be scared of what is happening right now, as fear (as discussed in my previous post) is our greatest enemy in this pandemic, and in life itself. If we’re not scared, we think clearer and therefore better. We can then find clear, workable solutions, to life’s problems. And humanity can grow as a whole and not just the sum of its parts.

So on that basis, I want to go back and discuss some points around my previous post (which I have now taken down in the light of new information). I introduced some interesting concepts; but I’m not sure if I explained them very well and, if they’re taken out of context, could cause quite a stir. I don’t want that, and I think that would be fair – Either to me or the people I write about. So, for reference, the link to my previous post is here; just in case you missed it. Let me start with why I wrote what I did – There were genuine reasons why I put pen to paper and they need to be addressed…

Whenever I write, I always find I have a compulsion to write something down. I can’t just sit there, throw pen to paper and an article comes out. As much as I’d love to be able to create text in that way, I can’t. That skill is reserved for when I’m in front of my decks and I’m mixing dance tracks, but I digress… What tends to happen is a development will occur that will affect my thinking in some way. I will feel an emotion towards that event and I will need time to process that emotion. Once I’ve done so, I will then need to write that down, and learn from it.

Which is the basis of this blog. It is my attempt to process, write and learn from developments in my life; as I go through a major change that most people would never, ever, consider a possibility for themselves. And to be honest, prior to 2017, it was never something I considered either! Never in a million years. But I’ve done it. And I’m learning from it. And I’m seeing life from an amazingly different perspective, that most will never have the chance to see.

How does that relate to my last post? Simple. Lack of fear. The issues I raised in that post do not scare me. Not what tiny little bit. I did not freak out when I read the tweets by J. K. Rowling or the article regarding the Trans Man’s parenting rightd. I did not freak out when I read the article on George Floyd’s death. And I most certainly did not freak out regarding coronavirus and and 5G technology, or the virus itself.

BECAUSE THAT WOULD HAVE SHOWN FEAR! – And fear is not in my vocabulary.

Fear is an instantaneous reaction to a situation or event you do not understand and cannot process effectively. Your brain doesn’t know what to do. What is happening, around you or to you, at that precise moment in time; is beyond the boundaries of what your brain feels comfortable understanding. And it cannot process the event correctly.

So it panics… And panic creates fear.

Fear is the emotional feeling of your brain panicking regarding an event or information that it cannot process – The monster that is going to eat you, you think you cannot escape, it’s too big for you to defend against, what do you do? Fight or flight. If you react to your fear, instead of understanding it and dealing with it effectively, you will flee – or try to.

J. K. Rowling and the “People who Menstruate” issue. You’re a Trans Man, not on HRT, she states in a public forum that people who Menstruate are women, that goes against everything that you understand – yet her Harry Potter teachings have played a major role in your life influences. What does your brain do? It panics. What’s the emotion? Fear. The rest is history, read the papers. What the F…?

Coronavirus and 5G – Radiations going to kill you! Yeah, right. OK. You want an understanding of what happens to radio waves in the atmosphere at such high frequencies? Read about the Terahertz Wall, it starts in the millimetre band at around 300GHz (Gigahertz). After you’ve done that, then we’ll have another discussion on 5G. Panic over.

When you take the fear away from these issues, you realise that they’re just people trying to defend themselves against issues they don’t understand. Then they panic. And panic feeds fear. It’s self fulfilling prophecy.

That’s why I presented the information in the way that I did, and have done throughout this blog. I’m not scared of the situation I’m in, or the information I’m presented with – I have a reaction to it, like everyone else, but then I process that reaction and deal with it effectively. Or at least try to. I get it wrong sometimes. Yes I can admit to that as well.

When it comes to the information that I present in this blog; I don’t necessarily have all the information about a subject, or understand it fully. But I understand what I do know and I present it in the best way that I can. I do that so everybody can understand it the same way as I do. And go away and process it, learn from it, come back if it’s wrong and advise me, so I can learn from it too. If I do that, I’ll write another post about it and what I’ve learnt. So others can learn.

Share the information. Share the right information. And be prepared to accept that some information is wrong based on your knowledge of the subject. Nobody knows everything. Nobody can know everything, there too much to know.

I’m done, it’s 7am. I’m going for a shower.

Much love,

Vikki xx

By Vikki Kinsella

My name is Vikki, and I’m a Transgender Female living and working in the UK.

I’ve started this blog purely as a way of writing down my thoughts and feelings, as I now start my journey through transition from living life as Male to becoming Female, and beyond. You see, I spent 45 years of my life living as, what is now known as, a cisgender Male - With almost no idea that I could even consider being Female, let alone consider corrective surgery. But I must admit I did have a tendency to THINK like a woman sometimes... But doesn't every Man think like a woman on occasion? Don't try and hide it boys, you know you do, lol...

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