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Moving on with life ❤️

Morning gorgeous ❤️💛💚💙💜 xx

How are you all doing? Good I hope. I do hope that things are starting to ease for you. That the havoc that has been wrecked upon us is slowly starting to have less of an impact on your life. And that you’re finding your new “Normal”. We will all get there, it just may take some more time than others; and that’s fine too.

On that note, let me drop something :-

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change”

Anon, et. Al.

So you’re wondering why I’ve put that there, aren’t you? I know I would be. I was thinking that as I wrote it, (They’re going to wonder if I’ve gone mad) lol. But if you’ve been reading this from the very beginning, you’ll know I never do anything without a reason. And there’s a reason for this, lol (isn’t there always?)…

The reason is simple. I now believe that statement – With every fibre of my being, I believe that now.

I believe that if everybody thought more along those lines, that this world would be a better place. I believe that as long as we are capable of rational thought, we should never forget the true meaning of that statement. And I also believe that if there was ever a mantra, doctrine, religion, or whatever; that the human race needs to follow in order to better define itself. Then this is it. If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change. Simple.

In fact, it’s the very root of the problem. It’s the reason I’ve been so quiet; for me, it was the writers block. Trust me, it was. Don’t believe me? Let me tell you…


So, OK then, missus; what’s behind this new Mantra of yours? And how is it changing things for you? Don’t be shy, do tell… Well, the second part is easy; I’m now up & about, starting new projects, getting on with new things, and I’m feeling a lot better about myself than what I used to – Hell I’m even looking for another job! Shit! Believe it, lol. I also have a team of very talented people around me who believe in the same things I do and have similar visions, some of these people have known me a very long time; which surprises me; but there you go, lol. And for the first time in years, I feel like I can actually achieve something; with the cards I have on my table. Although there’s always the risk that someone will take all the credit (*cough*, JB/TT, *cough*)…

But I’ve seen that before (see above, don’t ask). Because I’ve learnt the hard way that if someone is going to take something from you, that they want for themselves, there’s nothing you can do to prevent that; they will find a way of taking it if they’re desperate enough. No matter how hard you try to stop them. All you can do is mitigate the damage that they cause and hope that the one key element that you need, is the one piece you manage to keep. Because without that key element, they will never achieve the same as you could; had you been able to keep it.

Let me give you a recent example, one we all know; all to well. The war in Ukraine. It’s a good one for a reason, as it matches the principal that I’m trying to get across. It’s not the best example (waaay too much shit over there, and I do pray for them all; honestly, I…) but it’ll do as it has a lot of impact; which is what I like. The war itself is not the important part, what is important is the mindset that it has generated, on a global scale. To put it bluntly, someone has taken something that is not rightfully theirs and it’s forced us all to look at things in a new and radical way. And as soon as you do that, you start to change things. You realise that previously was, is no longer tenable and in order to protect the status quo, you must change something. You have to, otherwise you will lose what you have got – Does it make sense now?

I hope it does, because; as much as this shit is easy to write (And yeah, yeah, another cocky writer is on the scene who thinks they know it all..), it’s not easy to put into practice. Far from it, for some people it’s bloody impossible. Because you have to step out of your comfort zone and look at things in a different perspective. And stepping out of your comfort zone induces fear; the fight or flight response and we all know what that can lead to.

A point of note; is that the people who have the biggest problem dealing with this exact issue, are also the people with the biggest fucking ego’s. Because Ego is the slayer of change. You can’t have a super huge ego and expect to change the world (look at most religions) because in order to change the world, you have to be prepared to change yourself. And no one with a huge fucking ego wants to change, because they are well and truly happy the way they are… Idiots, lol


So what I’ve realised, over time. And the reason for this particular post. Is that if you’re going to change the way you look at things, in order for those things you’re looking at to change. You’ve got to start by looking at yourself. Because charity begins at home, so to speak. If you’re not prepared to make the necessary changes, no one is going to accept them when you do. You want to lead, you lead from the front. You lead by example. You want to change the world, start by changing yourself. Pretty fucking simple really.

Vladimir Putin, take note; this is for you. Idiot.

Much Love

Vikki xx

By Vikki Kinsella

My name is Vikki, and I’m a Transgender Female living and working in the UK.

I’ve started this blog purely as a way of writing down my thoughts and feelings, as I now start my journey through transition from living life as Male to becoming Female, and beyond. You see, I spent 45 years of my life living as, what is now known as, a cisgender Male - With almost no idea that I could even consider being Female, let alone consider corrective surgery. But I must admit I did have a tendency to THINK like a woman sometimes... But doesn't every Man think like a woman on occasion? Don't try and hide it boys, you know you do, lol...

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