Morning gorgeous xx

I hope your all happy and well, that life is treating you kindly and your needs / wants are all taken care of. If not, and life is not treating you well, I pray you find peace soon ❤

The main topic of today’s post is things that trigger us and make us want to scream. You all know what I mean; you read something, see something, hear something. Or, worse still someone close does something, that you just can’t abide. And the thing is, no matter how hard you avoid it, you’re gonna flip your lid. It’s a trigger – you pull the trigger, the gun goes off, simple… Well I come across one of those today, it came in the form of a Facebook post I seen on my wall.

Now I won’t bore you with the finer points but there’s a school of thought that links Narcissism, and defacto self absorbed traits, with the upper end of the Autistic Spectrum (ASD Level One, or Asperger Syndrome to be more precise). And having taken a brief look at this, I’ll agree there can be similarities in behaviour.


The major difference, is the question of intent. And remorse. And neither of these appear to be taken into consideration by the “elite” who peddle this vitriol without pause for thought.

OK, that’s a real harsh introduction to the subject, and I will, most certainly, advise readers to explore the subject further. And of course, come back and challenge me on it; should they so wish. But the point of this post, however, is not with regards to the Cassandra Phenomenon or what similarities may lie with ASD Level One and NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). The point of this post is the fact that comparing the two is a trigger for most people with ASD Level One – Due to the question of Intent, and Remorse.

So what defines a trigger?

Well, the easiest way to define it; is sensory input that breaches a person’s limits and causes an internal or external reaction. The internal reaction can be the reliving of a memory, while the external reaction can be an outward emotion. It’s breached your limits, you can’t get around it.

I’m in a number of Facebook groups, of differing topics (Trans, Autism, IT, what-have-you) and this “trigger” appeared multiple times, generating A LOT of responses. Wow. It fired an entire community into action. What I’m currently thinking is: Why was it posted? What was the intended outcome? I don’t actually know, and the post itself was swiftly taken down (along with the page from the look of it). If the person who posted it is so against an entire community of people, why antagonise (and “Trigger”) a response from that community?

Which brings me back to the Cassandra Syndrome. An autistic person wouldn’t intend on breaking a person they’re in a relationship with (to the point the they feel worthless), a narcissist would. Oh look, Intent… And while we are at it, an autistic person would feel a great deal of remorse once this issue is pointed out to them, a narcissist wouldn’t – it’s all about them.

Food for thought, eh?

Much love,

Vikki xx

By Vikki Kinsella

My name is Vikki, and I’m a Transgender Female living and working in the UK.

I’ve started this blog purely as a way of writing down my thoughts and feelings, as I now start my journey through transition from living life as Male to becoming Female, and beyond. You see, I spent 45 years of my life living as, what is now known as, a cisgender Male - With almost no idea that I could even consider being Female, let alone consider corrective surgery. But I must admit I did have a tendency to THINK like a woman sometimes... But doesn't every Man think like a woman on occasion? Don't try and hide it boys, you know you do, lol...

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