Transphobia 101…

Morning Gorgeous xx

Pride month is near,

June is on it's way,

The the sun is shining somewhere,

Have a lovely day...

Vikki Kinsella, 15/05/22

How are we all today? Are we good? More importantly; are we well, safe and do we have the capacity to live through this day without fear?…

If you do, count yourself lucky and enjoy all the benefits that your life will bring you. But do spare a thought for those less fortunate, as there could be one standing right next to you and you would never know it – A smile can hide a thousand words, and expressions, actions & body language are all capable of being controlled. If someone doesn’t want you to know how they’re feeling; they don’t have to let you know, and it’s not your right to know if they don’t want you to. They can play you like a fiddle and you will never know, just read any story about someone committing suicide to understand what I mean.

So… Why did I just write that? That’s a bit expressive, don’t you think? Some would consider it harsh. It’s very direct, that’s for sure – Tells it like it is (which is not unusual for me, as any long time reader will know). But what was the purpose of that statement? And the title? What’s happened for me to write this? I’ll tell you.

Transphobia comes in many forms – ANY phobia, comes in many forms. Phobia is fear, phobia is negativity and as I’ve written about in previous posts (see Here for on that) fear is purely a reaction to stimulus that the brain can’t comprehend. The brain can’t process a stimulus from the senses, the neural cortex determines that continuing to experience the stimuli carries a risk that is unacceptable and reacts against it. Fear being the primary emotional response but stimuli from other senses can modify or confirm the feeling and attenuate or accentuate the response as time passes.

So, phobia – A fear of something unknown, backed up by learned behaviour that is contrary to the sensory stimuli at the time the event occurs. Makes sense, doesn’t it? No? If not, get a grip – You shit yourself because you’re scared? Don’t tell me you don’t know what I’m talking about – “Oh, look, there’s a Tranny! Hahaha, weirdo.” Come on, we’ve all been there. It’s happened. Physically, emotionally, mentally, verbally, it’s happened. In the moment, the minute, the hour… Think long and hard and deep, and don’t come back to me until you have. Because I thought it myself! I’ve been there, I was scared of Trans people and I was LGBTQ friendly, as I was brought up with it! You’re not arguing with me this side of next week. I know. And I’ve been scared of it myself. But I digress, as I always do…

Phobia is a response to something the brain cannot control, so fear takes over and the behaviour is ingrained, as the brain learns and copes. No change to behaviour, a Phobia is the end result. Transphobia is behavioural actions, from learned behaviour, from external stimuli, setup to view Trans people as a negative; and therefore repulsive, influence – The brain says no and doubles down on that.

These people need to get over themselves and (likely) the control methods designed to influence their behaviour. Until they do, Transphobia will always exist.

And there will always be people, just like those I met on saturday night down the local; that will fear people like me – Guys, I am NOT Ru-Paul, and he himself (yes, it’s a he), as I am led to believe (and I have no reason not to) is one of the most Transphobic people in the entertainment industry – Why would he promote Drag Queens? They do it for the entertainment of others, not to save their life. If it’s about them, they’ve already lost. And they can say what they like; they’ve already failed by being what they are; I was brought up with it, I know the truth, I will not fall down that rabbit hole even if I can do it better than most of them combined (I can play ragtime on a piano, with a broken hand! – bring it bitches).

Transphobia needs to be blocked at the source. And the source is the fear that comes from social conditioning based on religion; or crowd control. It is time for change, and the time is now.

Thank you.

Vikki xx

By Vikki Kinsella

My name is Vikki, and I’m a Transgender Female living and working in the UK.

I’ve started this blog purely as a way of writing down my thoughts and feelings, as I now start my journey through transition from living life as Male to becoming Female, and beyond. You see, I spent 45 years of my life living as, what is now known as, a cisgender Male - With almost no idea that I could even consider being Female, let alone consider corrective surgery. But I must admit I did have a tendency to THINK like a woman sometimes... But doesn't every Man think like a woman on occasion? Don't try and hide it boys, you know you do, lol...

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